If anyone knows of the show Disaster Date on MTV you know that they use the top 3 pet peeves of the person against them to try to drive them away from the blind date. The longer they last, the more money they make once the date is finished. It gets me thinking of what my top 3 pet peeves would be for dating. The list may change but at this moment the thing I come across most are these:1. Telling me I look pissed off. When they say it once I understand because I know I do, but don't keep going on it when I am talking to you and clearly smiling because then you are just dwelling on a negative comment. If I'm not talking or smiling then I look mad because the natural shape of my mouth makes me look irritated. Trying to figure out how to appear less angry but I'm not gonna just smile in a corner to myself so I don't look mad because then I will just look crazy.
- This also coincides with when guys constantly ask if you're alright or if you're having fun more than once. It basically points out your insecurity. If I'm not enjoying myself, you would know.
2. On the other hand, Don't compliment me over and over. The first time or two are very flattering and we love it, but if you keep going on it then what else is there to say? "Thanks" is about all I can think of because I sure won't be complimenting you in return every time you compliment me. It starts to devalue yourself as though your not in the presence of good-looking girls very often. It just makes the whole situation awkward.
-Just came across this last night at our local bar. I was sitting next to a married couple. The guy after a few drinks decided to inform me and my friend that she was cute but that I was GORGEOUS. At first I was flattered because I don't usually get that when I'm with my adorable petite crazy friend, she generally holds the spotlight. But, he kept on it. I wasn't uncomfortable because he was married so it wasn't a come-on, but once he realized that his wife was hitting on the Kenny Chesney look-alike, he then was actually hitting on me. Instant discomfort! He told me I was a mix of Paris Hilton / Kardashian... which both incidentally became famous off of sex tapes, but it was meant as a compliment. It was time to go.
3. Trying to be funny when its not natural to you. I know I'm not a comedian, so I don't try to make jokes JUST to be funny. When I make people laugh its because of a natural observation of something that I didn't have to force or think of. I'd rather be serious with someone than have to force laughter when you make dumb joke after dumb joke.
Oh and if there was a fourth, since these don't necessarily stand for the first date and who knows, maybe you would kiss on the first date...but for you guys out there, maybe this is just me but I don't think so: Don't ASK to kiss a girl just because you don't know what she will do, chances are she will go with it plus it gives you MAJOR points. asking just ruins the mood and gets me thinking and feeling pressured like "crap, do I want to?"
When a guy just kisses a girl, sure it catches them off guard and they may pull back or not, but I guarantee they will think about it later. If your a good kisser then yep, you just made her forget about why she wouldn't have kissed you if you had asked.
ALL 3 of my pet peeves center around confidence obviously. What majority of people want when dating is to be around someone who seem to have value so anything you do to devalue yourself and make it appear that you aren't in demand in some way.
What about everyone else... Do you have specific pet peeves that bother you or instantly turn a possible good date into annoying?
